(He/Him/His ) Maker of feels & procurer of LOLs. Activist & intersectional feminist. Asher/#HowToGetAwayWithMurder Bennett/ #oitnb 📸 by @hfdavis
(He/Him/His ) Maker of feels & procurer of LOLs. Activist & intersectional feminist. Asher/#HowToGetAwayWithMurder Bennett/ #oitnb 📸 by @hfdavis
I moved away from my home of NYC around 6 years ago to start working on ‘How To Get Away With Murder.’ Every time, when I’ve gone back and visited, I’ve found myself overwhelmed, stressed out, and exhausted. Trying to see so many people, being asked to do work things and fit in all of the activities that I can only do in NYC made me feel constantly guilty if I felt like I was letting people down by not seeing them or overwhelmed because I never had enough alone time to recharge and do the things that I know allow me to thrive. The city has a pace that can support a never-ending grind, and it has been very easy for me to fall back into that pattern when I visit. # This last trip, a few weeks ago, was the first time since moving away that I was able to say that overall my experience being back in NYC was joyful and that I truly loved it. I had to make time for naps, for reading, for spending time alone, and for sitting in the park just watching people go by. @jlovecalderon has been so helpful in this process, as we worked to transform my trips to NYC into one of joy...removing the word “should” from my mind, and exercising healthy boundaries. # Being born and raised in New York City, I’ve always loved people-watching. And I’m grateful for even the simple moments of pause and reflection when I go back to NYC...the moments that make it feel more like living than visiting. Or course, it helps that it wasn’t spring so my allergies didn’t get fucked up, it’s not cold-ass winter, and it wasn’t so hot and humid that I felt like I was living inside of a sun-baked scrotum. # I hope you enjoy this minute of the sights and sounds of the City (I’ll let you imagine the smells on your own ).
Squinty McGee up in here. Am I just waking up? Am I about to fall asleep? Is this drought ensnarement? Unclear.
In response to this shitty fatphobic article from @telegraph Repost from @shishi rose : “I work out at home because for years I’ve been too scared to go to the gym and thought things like ‘what will people think or say about me being at the gym in this body?” Or ‘What if I can’t do what everyone else can do there and I look pathetic?’ I have an auto immune disorder and hip issues that means I can’t always keep up with everyone else no matter how fit I am. I also didn’t want to go to the gym and look frumpy or have on too many clothes and overheat. • Its wild to me how much people hate fat bodies. That people tell us to work out constantly and yet when there’s work out gear designed for us to do just that we are still shamed and vilified. • You don’t make comments about peoples bodies because you are genuinely worried about their health. You do it because we are walking embodiments of everything you hate about yourselves and try not to be so you attack it. You hate to see someone existing in a body with joy that you deem disgusting, so you put it down. And even when you think you dont you still do it in tiny ways whether you realize it or not. We all do. • Some of the women in my family used to have this game that they played when we were out and about. They would see someone and ask “I dont look as bad as that person do I?” The person would usually be in shorts or something tight that clung to their bodies. I feel like they choose those ones because they wanted to find the ones that looked the most carefree and cut that down. One of us kids would say “no you don’t” and somehow that would reaffirm that their lives weren’t total fuck ups. I learned a long time ago to hate fat people, unpacking that and changing that has been one of my hardest struggles especially as a fat person. Because giving that up means I’d have to stop self hating. • Im wondering - have you examined your own fatphobia? Have you unpacked your relationship to it and food? How do you talk to yourself? How do you talk to others, including children? Is your biggest fear still having visible belly print in a dress?”
So excited that the social impact venture that I co-founded with @jlovecalderon , called @weinspirejustice , is co-sponsoring this powerful fireside chat with #DecolonizingWealth between actress/activist Dawn-Lyen Gardner ( @dawnlyen ) and author/activist Edgar Villanueva ( @VillanuevaEdgar ). The chat, held in New Orleans on June 15th at 6pm, will dive deep into racial/economic justice and how we heal. # Dawn-Lyen Gardner has left an indelible mark on viewers as Charley Bordelon in the critically-acclaimed TV series QUEEN SUGAR, created by Ava DuVernay and executive produced by Oprah Winfrey. Dawn's creative work has long intersected with her advocacy work, which has ranged from youth arts empowerment to advancing gender equity to racial justice organizing. Edgar Villanueva is a Native American author and activist who is passionate about racial and economic justice, particularly in communities of color, Indigenous communities, the US South and in communities impacted by HIV/AIDS. Check out his game-changing book “Decolonizing Wealth”! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 # RSVP at bit.ly/2VKWPx6 or click the link in my bio!
This is why accountability feels like an attack to those of us that are used to having our lies validated. Unlearning ego, unlearning all the shit that our society teaches us everyday is essential to our own happiness, liberation, and higher consciousness. To truly be agents of change, we need to look at the lies we tell ourselves and unlearn the belief systems that prop them up. (Image reposted from @larenztate )
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It felt so good to celebrate my good friend @kendrick38 at the launch of @BLDPWR and be in community with phenomenal artivists putting in the work! Thank you @favianna1 for drawing important connections and for showing how climate change is a racial justice issue! You did the damn thing! Big up @Tia oso and @mrmikedelarocha for all your hard work, vision, and energy! Inspired!
Yesterday was Malcolm X’s birthday. 🙏🏼 # To fight for freedom, we must always be seeking to learn and apply new information about who we are, how we came to be this way and the outside cultural, institutional, and social forces that impacted us. We are all in various levels of sleep, the antidote to which must be an INTENTIONAL learning/unlearning and self-reflection coupled with ACTION. (Image repost from @workingclassteacher )
Allow us to reintroduce ourselves @weinspirejustice We are multiracial and intergenerational artivists across the gender spectrum. We educate, organize and train celebrities, influencers and media companies to best leverage their hearts, creativity, and platforms to transform culture toward social good. We are the bridge between the grassroots and the highly visible. We inspire justice. Check out this clip to hear our inception story, why we do what we do, and how we do it. #InspireJustice
LET’S!!! GOOOOO!!!! Thank you all the fans out there watching and loving our show! 😍🤩😍🤩
Statement from the Coalition to #FreeMasonique @freemasonique "Today, Masonique pled guilty to a reduced charge of involuntary manslaughter. Prosecutor Ron O’Brien bullied this teenager into accepting charges for a murder that Officer Eric Richards committed. This is one of many instances of the racist, classist carceral system pressuring Black people into needlessly accepting punitive measures. By scapegoating her and disappearing her behind bars, Ron O’Brien has allowed another killer cop to evade accountability. We are angry and disappointed in the outcome, but we as a coalition still stand alongside Masonique and will do what we can to advocate for her. This is not over!"
Repost from @mia mingus - “YES ALL DAY to this definition of boundaries from @prentis h 🌟🌟🌟 . . [image of simple white text on black background of a quote, “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously. -Prentis Hemphill”] . . #Boundaries #PrentisHemphill #TransformativeJustice “
Columbus Police killed 16-year-old Julius Tate Jr. in December and are pinning their murder on his girlfriend Masonique Saunders. This system is so fixed against black youth that when an unarmed teenager is shot dead by police, instead of being accountable they scapegoat a young black woman. Since December, Masonique has sat in a jail cell languishing as they attempt to try her as an adult (Masonique 'celebrated' her 17th birthday behind bars ). We know that these charges are unjust, and demand that they #DropTheCharges and #FreeMasonique. You can support by doing any or all of the following: -Write a statement or post a video in support of Masonique, tagging @freemasonique -Donate to Masonique’s legal fees at https://www.gofundme.com/free-masonique-legal-fees and get involved with the National Week of Action at freemasonique.home.blog -Call Prosecutor Ron O’Brien at (614 ) 525-3555 and demand that Masonique be released and that her charges be dropped.
Damn. This video really got me. A lifetime of being told what a man should be makes this very real and also heartbreaking. # Repost from @whiteribboncanada # Trigger Warning: Violence and Harassment # “Through #BoysDontCry, different #bystanders could have challenged toxic behaviours and yet they did not. HAVE YOU EVER INTERVENED IN SITUATIONS OF SEXISM, VIOLENCE, OR HARASSMENT? TELL US YOUR STORY IN THE COMMENTS BELLOW 👇🏽 - WE WANT TO PROVE IT’S POSSIBLE TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. TW 🎥: violence, harassment #bystander #bystanderintervention #GBV #GenderBasedViolence #GBVprevention #Masculinity #Masculinities #equity #equality #feminism #feminist “
Or “Why is this happening FOR me?” Both are powerful reframes when we encounter parts of lives or our days that don’t go as we expected or wanted. Try them on for a day to start! Would love to hear who is going to try it and how people feel after the day! Comment below! 😍😍😍 (of course you can try it for more than a day...in fact, I’d recommend it. 🥰 )
By @farhoudmeybodi : “Astronomers have just taken the first ever image of a black hole, one the most mysterious objects in the universe. The black hole itself – a cosmic trapdoor with a diameter stretching 38 billion kilometers, from which neither light nor matter can escape – is totally unseeable. But this photograph reveals a beautiful halo of dust and gas, tracing the outline of a colossal black hole, at the heart of the Messier 87 galaxy, 55 million light years from Earth. Black holes were first predicted by Einstein’s theory of relativity – although Einstein himself was skeptical that they actually existed. Since then, astronomers have accumulated overwhelming evidence that these cosmic sinkholes are out there, including recent detection of gravitational waves that ripple across the cosmos when pairs of them collide. The breakthrough image was captured by the Event Horizon Telescope (EHT ), a network of eight radio telescopes spanning locations from Antarctica to Spain and Chile, in an effort involving more than 200 scientists. This magical photo is our first glimpse of a black hole’s accretion disk, a fuzzy doughnut-shaped ring of gas and dust that steadily feeds the monster within. I mean how much more esoteric can this whole thing get? We’re quite literally gazing into the womb of the universe, which is a manifestation of darkness and shadow, not light. And if you venture too close to this mythic force and cross “event horizon,” you'll never escape. It boggles my mind how similar the macro of the universe is to the micro within each of us. Every one is us has a shadow deep within. A hidden place where we suppress the darkness of our childhood traumas. But this pain isn’t the end, only the beginning. By journeying into the shadow, which is a Herculean task, we break through to the other side, into the light, the joy, the possibility. And ironically, the only way we can truly grasp the gravity of this monumental force is through true collaboration from different points of being. The black hole is our gateway to nirvana. And looking into the depths of this 38 billion kilometer space womb, I can’t help but feel all my ridiculous worries and...” (cont below )
O hai season fiiii! 🤩🤩🤩 #HTGAWM @netflix
Repost from @tamararenaye via the @theequalityinstitute # This is so true. Particularly for those of us that are new to social justice work and for those of us with the most privilege. When I started out as an activist, I remember being upset and angry when people tried to hold me accountable for the effects of my words and action (as white men I would say we tend to do this the most ). Despite my best intentions, I inevitably made mistakes, as we all do. Nowadays, I still sometimes feel my heart rate speed up when someone tells me about how my words or actions or lack of actions has caused harm, but I am more adept at getting curious rather than getting defensive. Working through the shame that used to be easily triggered in me was a part of that process as well. Perfection is a cover for shame, and the way to address it is not simply by “trying to be more perfect” (although as activists we should learn and grow from our mistakes ) but also do the uncomfortable work of understanding what is deep underneath. Our activism and our allyship requires that we are able to take criticism and grow from it. Without accountability, there will never be justice or equity.
Damn, this shit is on point. I try to make a promise to myself to only buy one book at a time, but sometimes I get SO EXCITED TO KNOW THE KNOWLEDGE!!!!🤪😅🧠🕳🛒📚
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Text below is reposted from @rachel cargle and art is by @jeeheipark Let’s all become familiar with the term “Spiritual Bypassing,” starting with Google. SB often shows up as white people speaking a big game about spirituality without understanding our responsibility in confronting systems of oppression. It’s dangerous and inauthentic. # “Spiritual bypassing as it relates to race: a gaslighting technique in which someone from the white community insists on dismissing the lived experiences of an oppressed or marginalized group in the name of “love”, “light” or “peace”. • This perceived higher morality is really just their white privilege materializing as the option to opt out of acknowledging or engaging in a reality they aren’t directly affected by. • As opposed to taking into account their role in the social constructs that exists, they’ll try to make the oppressed communities think they simply “aren’t showing up better spiritually” and that’s why they are in the position they are in as opposed to the truths of structural racism. • Thanks for coming to my @ted talk 🙏🏾 • Art by @jeeheipark • #yoga #loveandlight #lululemon #howdarling #pnw #puppiesofinstagram #kittensofinstagram #yogaeverydamnday #spiritualganster #gabbybernstein #supersoulsunday #feminist #feminism #intersectionalfeminism #rbg #solange #momsofinstagram #momsofboys #knittersofinstagram #letterboardquotes #stationery “
Shit is getting real on #HTGAWM !!! Don’t miss the last episode of the season tonight!!! OKAY??? THANK YOUU!!! HAVE A NICE DAY!! I HOPR YOU ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND!!!
Exploring our shame, fear and the negative stories that we (often unconsciously ) tell ourselves is essential to living our fullest lives. It’s scary and vulnerable, but we cannot be free without doing this work. # Repost from @sonyareneetaylor (original image from @tatiannatarot )- # “THIS IS A WHOLE SERMON!!!! What an incredibly necessary reminder. We are what we are seeking. it lives in us beneath the layers of fear and indoctrination. Radical self love is that magic. When we stop avoiding the work we welcome ourselves back to ourselves. #Radicalselflovelessons #TheBodyisNotanApology #bodyliberation #bodypo @tatiannatarot
See your friends on a new episode of How To Get Away With Murder tonight at 10/9c #HTGAWM ! @conradricamora
Repost from @mia mingus (and I suggest you follow her! ) - “we must not only take action when full-blown violence happens, we must also take action to change the many (seemingly small ) conditions that contribute to violence—and can often prevent violence. because harm, violence and abuse do not happen in a vacuum and they are supported by dynamics that we often ignore or avoid. . if you can’t give or receive feedback (or even reflections or feelings ) with the people you’re in relationship with, then you are setting yourself up (and your relationships ) to be unaccountable. you are reinforcing and contributing to a normalized culture of unaccountability, which directly feeds a culture of harm, violence and abuse. . (and this goes for all kinds of relationships: friend, partner, date, child, parent, coworker, housemate, relative, mentor, etc. ) . so, do the work now to make sure that people feel and know they can come to you with feedback, reflections, feelings, questions. and do your own self work to make sure you can make good on that offer. and vice versa, bc i know for many of folks, they can receive, but they don’t know how to share how they truly feel with the people in their lives. . because if we can’t address the small things between us, how will we be able to address the big things? (and also, addressing the small things can help to prevent the big things. ) . if we want other people to be accountable, then we must also practice accountability. every day, every moment. in small and big ways. we must also *proactively* build accountable lives and that starts w building relationships where we can talk about and *practice* accountability w each other. because the quality of our relationships is a key condition that can help us create (or block ) the conditions that support transformative justice. 🌿 . . [tweet from @tayywalkk : I read this today: Any relationship you have that could be ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards, and/or expectations wasn’t really stable enough to begin with beloved!] . . #TransformativeJustice #Accountability “